How It Works

Do you find yourself…

Imagine feeling good. Dot, dot, dot.

More often. More easily. Imagine that you feel lighter, unburdened even. Imagine feeling good within yourself, about yourself, confident in your ability to have healthy relationships.

Not a superhero, there’s still pain when you stub your toe, but the kinda good that allows you to feel sunny, that puts a pep-in-your step, gives you a reason to try. A little like “Little Miss Sunshine” -no matter what is going on with grandpa in the back seat, or the messed up world around you, you feel loved and supported, and competent at happy. And you aren’t going to miss your glorious moment.

I am Erin Butler, and I help good, good people like you, fix their shit, and feel better fast.

For the love of all things good and beautiful, for the love of your friends, and your families and your unborn children, and your ancestors, and the barista at Starbucks, and your goldfish, Ronnie. Let’s lessen this suffering.

It doesn’t have to feel this hard…and you don’t have to go it alone!

You see, I know it’s not you.

You’re not broken, or flawed

But how does this differ from other kinds of coaching?

People go to coaches to create change and achieve goals, either with the help of boot-camp tough-love, mindset development, or some form of motivational help. I solve for resistance. I go straight to undoing the obstacles that block us in the first place. My clients are seeking to feel better when they begin working with me, but they also get all of those lovely “goals” and accomplishments as side effects of the work we do. It’s easier to resolve the inner chaos than to hurtle over it on the hour as you plow through your Daytimer list. Don’t get me wrong – there are amazing goal-oriented coaches out there – if you want help with scalable predictive analytics for your business, don’t come to me! Or the rate that your peptides will break down your lipids forty seconds after you down a kale protein smoothie, I’m not gonna get that right, but wanna stop downing three bags of cookies in a sitting or sabotaging your biz and relationship goals – I’m your gal.

What about therapy?

I think there are areas that psychology does well, as there are areas that MD’s cover well. But when I hurt my ankle and it wasn’t broken, it was the physios and the alignment specialists that made the difference. I fill what I observe to be a big GAP, in how we understand ourselves and our emotions. I won’t diagnose you, or write you or prescription to manage your pain, but I’ll get you running again, metaphorically speaking.

I have had many psychologists as clients, and my work has been supported by medical doctors and psychologists of my clients. I am not here to replace those roles but to augment wellness, and to help in a different way.

How long does it take to get results?

It depends on your needs and circumstances and our pace. Once I worked with an artist for two weeks and she went from three jobs, struggle and distress to an overnight success. But that is not the norm. I prefer to have three to six months with a client. Typically we can create lasting foundational change in that time period, and the rest is miso gravy. You may have amazing things happening a lot sooner than that, but why quit before you have received your share of miracles? I have a vested interest in giving you the big time, long time payoff.

What if my stuff is too heavy, or I’m beyond help?

No one is beyond help, in my view. One of my strange gifts involves seeing you clear of the muck; your family’s dark secrets, your dark secrets, your traumas. I know what you did last summer and I am here to protect you from the bad guy who keeps lording it over you with his creepy whisper. I understand the sadness, the grief, the loss, the crazy behaviour. We can walk you through and out of it, laugh, cry, and make it better. However, there are some situations that require additional help. If you are too sad to get out of bed in the morning to come see me, or even pick up the phone, then we are gonna need a doc to get you some “better living through chemistry” to tide us over until our work together can have an effect. Or another inspired solution, but you catch my drift. If you’re not sure, you can ask me. I hear it all, and I don’t judge.

Can you get my lost love back?

I don’t make promises, and I don’t set “getting her back” as a goal. But we can bring out the “best potential” of the situation, by resolving your side of what broke between you. Sometimes this change is felt by the other half in a conflict or break up, and it allows for a new dynamic in the partnership and a willingness to try again. At very least you will feel better, healthier, and won’t be recreating the whole mess with the next pretty girl or boy who catches your eye.

How can I get the most out of my experience?

For me, when I choose a coach or a mentor there is an alchemy that happens. It isn’t about their perfect track record or my history, but rather what we can create together when we both trust and respect each other and the relationship. I paid a lot of money to the last coach I hired, and though there may have been some swankier credentials out there, he and I worked some serious magic together. I also learned a long time ago not to make your helper your scape goat. I don’t want to blame someone else, even a little, for why it didn’t work. I just want it to work. Getting out of your own head and bringing on an ally and an expert is great way to make it work. Trust and ownership of your results seal the deal. I remind myself that this person wants my stuff to shine, that’s how we all thrive, and they have expertise and objectivity to get me there.

What if I screw it up?

You can’t. The only way you can fail this process is not engage in it, and even that is just a matter of readiness. You can’t underperform, and the fear of backsliding or underperforming; the fear that there is something failing in you that will “fail” to feel better, is simply a symptom of what we’re going to fix.